MY Women Who Rock

Shelley did a passage on women she thinks rocks and I loved the idea so I stole it. Below is a list of singers/actresses I think rock. I think a lot of other women in other professions rock but I narrowed it down or I would be here until the end of 2006. So here is my list with the reasons why and some include photos.



Ashanti
Ashanti is the perfect picture of perseverance. I admire her for being able to pick herself up after hard times. She has struggled to get where she is (though most don't know that) and now her hard work has paid off. She is beautiful, talented and an-all-around sweetheart. She supports many charities and organizations for children. She also works heavily for the AIDS foundation. Did you catch her giving out Christmas toys on television the other day? I love her music and though she may not be the best at what she does, she's definitely got talent.

Angela Bassett
She is one of my favorite actresses. It's a joy to see her in a role because I never know what to expect. She keeps me guessing and for that I will always follow her work.

Jennifer Lopez
La Lopez is the " Queen of Latin Soul ". I love her music and though I do not watch her movies I am probably one of the biggest Jennifer fans you'll find. She is a very sweet and giving person though the public has a different view of her. You should see the beautiful autograph photo she sent me!

Mary J. Blige
Can't say enough about this woman except that she's been the queen of R&B and soul for over a decade. Mary has reigned for over twelve years proving that she has what it takes. She's the ultimate diva people love to imitate and love to hate simply because she does something many singers can't: she takes control.

Reese Witherspoon
I have been a fan of Reese's since she was a little girl! I knew Reese when no one else knew Reese. Fear happens to be one of my favorite movies. I can't tell you how beautiful it is to see that this woman has grown up into a superb actress right before my eyes. I wish Reese success for years to come. It's a joy to see her on screen.

Mo'Nique
I love Mo'Nique for being a positive image. I didn't like how they had her running after Dorian Wilson on The Parkers though. She is too beautiful to degrade herself by playing a character that runs after a man. I appreciate Mo'Nique for showing the world that big women are here to stay and that it doesn’t matter what society thinks. Big women got it going on. If you don't believe that just ask Mo'Nique how much money she's made in Hollywood. Believe me it now pays to be big.

Janet Jackson
She is one tough cookie. We all know Janet is talented but what I love the most about her is her staying power. She has suffered very hard times (being a Jackson is tough!) and though people try to keep her down she always gets up swinging! She was beautiful when she started out and she's beautiful now. I remember her from television as Penny and as Willis' girlfriend on " Different Strokes ". She is another phenomenal woman who I hold dear to my heart.

Nia Long
I've known Nia since she was on Guiding Light. She is another actress that has grown up before my eyes. It's a treasure to see her on films. I just wish she would make better choices sometimes. She is too good for some of the B-movie films she appears in. Did you see her in Alfie with Jude Law? She was to die for. She's a stylish little woman with a lot of grace and class. She's a pleasure the world should appreciate.

Juliette Lewis
One of my favorites, man! She has been acting since childhood. Some may not know her by name but you would definitely know her face. She's an actress that gives her all to any role. I mean she gets down! No woman rocked the way Juliette did in Natural Born Killers. She was so sexy and tough. I don't think anyone else could have played Mallory Knox as realistic as she did. And did you see her singing in Strange Days? Wasn't she a knockout? She is extremely sexy and sings rock like nobody's business! I love me some Juliette Lewis!

Regina King
I first saw Regina on 227 as Brenda back in the 80's. I didn't pay her too much attention until I saw her in Boyz in the Hood. She blew me away because that character was so different from Brenda. I knew then that Regina had it going on. She is one of my favorite actresses. I was so proud that she finally got notoriety by appearing in the films, Jerry Maguire and Ray. It's about time the world took notice.

Cyndi Lauper
(The woman I think Gwen Stefani tries to imitate). Don't get me wrong, I like Gwen but she got some of her style from Cyndi. We can't deny that right? What can I say? Cyndi embodied the 80's. Talk about versatile style, grace and talent. Cyndi has it all and continues to be a legend for rockers everywhere. I believe she's also a feminist. No wonder I love this woman! I love a lot of Cyndi's songs but my favorites are, " She-Bop " and " Goonies R' Good Enough. " When I put a Cyndi CD on I go wild! If Cyndi doesn't rock, I don't know who does! She's so unique she even spells her name, " Cyndi " backwards!

Last but not least…MADONNA. No explanation needed.

I'll cut the list off here. I had some more but I think I've made my point, LOL! These women rock (in my book). I have tons of others but I'll keep them to myself. It's refreshing to appreciate other women for their accomplishments and challenges. If we can't celebrate others, how can we celebrate ourselves?

Bye for now,
Bootsy

Things We Say Vs. Things We WANT to Say

Scenario One:
Man sees a woman sitting alone in a restaurant. Woman notices man and smiles. Man walks over. Woman straightens up in her seat.

Man says: " Hello there. How are you? You mind if I sit down? "

Man wants to say: " Actually I could care less how you are doing. I just came over here to see if you are single. Hopefully you'll be dumb enough to fall for my lines, let me take you out and then we end up having hot, nasty, stinky sex because all I want is some booty. Afterwards I will talk sweet and hold you, not meaning a word I say. Then, I will slip you a fake number (because I'm married) then leave you heartbroken, desperate and miserable. So, what do you say to that? "

Woman says: " Hello. I am doing okay. I don't mind if you sit down. I noticed you when you walked in. "

Woman wants to say: " Who dressed you, Forrest Gump? I should get an Academy Award for picking out suckers. Sure you can sit down. You can tell me all the tired lines you want and if I don't have anything better to do I may take you home tonight. We can have hot, stinky sex and afterwards I will tell you you're the best I've ever had even though I know having sex with a three-legged dog would have been better. Then I will let you hold me, all the while pretending I want to see you again. I'll invite you over for more sex until you're so obsessed with me that you pay my rent, phone bill and car note. Life is good, sucker. "

Scenario Two:
Two ex-girlfriends meet after a long separation because girlfriend B ran off with girlfriend A's man. Now, after months they finally see each other face to face.

Girlfriend B says: " Girl it is so good to see you! I wanted to call you. I am so sorry about what happened with Jonathan. I won't ever be able to forgive myself. "

Girlfriend B wants to say: " As if it is my fault you can't keep a man. It's not my problem you're so controlling and you dress like Aunt Esther. Who could keep a man looking like that? And you haven't changed a bit. Talk about someone who needs a lifetime certificate to Bad Dressers Anonymous. "

Girlfriend A says: " Oh don't worry about it. I missed you too. Hey, Jonathan is just a man. We were friends before him. I shouldn't have let him come between us. "

Girlfriend A wants to say: " Man stealing heifer. Hell yeah I'm still upset. You think that you can just take my man then walk up to me like nothing happened? I see you're alone. He must have dumped you like the trash. Oh sweet victory huh? So how does it feel? You thought he was with you because you were better than I was but you see that's not the case now huh? Now if only you get that broken leg so I know if my voodoo spell really works. "

Girlfriend B says: " You look good, girl! I love that dress. You've lost weight! "

Girlfriend B wants to say: " Someone needs a gift certificate to Jenny Craig. "

Girlfriend A says: " Oh thank you, girl! And I love your hair! That's the perfect style for
you! "

Girlfriend A wants to say: " I've seen a better weave on a chipmunk. And what old lady did you jack those shoes from? I didn't know people under fifty wore hush puppies. "

Scenario Three:
Man and woman after a night of loving.

Woman says: " Oh Stanley you were great. "

Woman wants to say: " Yeah right you musty sucker. Ever heard of deodorant? Well who cares? Law and Order was a rerun anyway. I needed something to do. "

Man says: " Just being with you was enough. We didn’t even have to have sex. "

Man wants to say: " Ha! What the hell you think I came over here for? I wined and dined you, you best believe I deserved this. And I know I'm good. At least I got my money's worth for that dinner at Wendy's. "

Woman says: " Let's do it again sometime. "

Woman wants to say: " Masturbation is better than you are. "

Man says: " You're so beautiful. I can't wait to see you again. "

Man wants to say: " I'm surprised I could get one kiss in with that huge banana nose you got. And your head looks like a giant walnut. I didn't realize your nose was that big in the club. And you could use some deodorant too. And you aren't that fine. The butt's not all that and the breasts are going due south. Of course I just told you you looked good in case I need another booty call. Let me get home before my wife yanks a chunk out of my behind. "

Woman says: " Call you. "

Woman wants to say: " Call you…when hell freezes over. "

Man says: " No I'll call you. "

Man wants to say: " Shoot I'm not thinking of you no more this week! You can wait by the phone if you want to. But if you call me I'll pretend I want to see you again. You don't look like nothing but I got to treat you right in case I'm in need of some more loving. I'm really trying to get with that cute little friend of yours. "

Woman says: " Goodnight. "

Woman wants to say: " Bastard. "

Man says: " Goodnight. "

Man wants to say: " For god sakes, shave those legs! "

Just a little fun huh? LOL! Hope you enjoyed this!

The Positive Syndrome: It Works

(This is long but something I hope you will like and something I really wanted to write).

This is a syndrome that is spreading and I am glad it is. It's reached a lot of people. It's reached me so I will forever preach it. What is the positive syndrome? Of course, it's just being positive. I am writing this as a feed off of my comments section from my last post. I just want to say this to people who think that being positive doesn't work or isn't worth the effort…

First of all, I don't ever wish anything bad on anyone. And if someone is going through a hard time I wish them luck and help through their situation. But let me tell you that it starts by being positive. If you don't believe that, then you have yet to discover the real meaning of life. I believe the meaning of life is to be able to live carefree, joyously with love and patience. But you cannot live this way if you are not positive about the roads a head. We all have problems. Some of us think our problems are bigger than we are but the fact is that we are ALLOWING them to be. I don't care what kind of life you've had there is always someone whose life is ten times worse. And believe me, these people are often the most positive ones. How did my journey of being positive begin?

I've gone through emotional problems and personal problems like you won't believe. I never loved myself. I lived my childhood hating myself and with that I believed others hated me too. Sure I had friends but I was never happy. Do you know how pathetic it is to be twenty-three or twenty-four and say you've never really been happy? Well it's quite pathetic and I am no longer at that stage in my life. Thank goodness. The fact is, I know times can be tough and hard but I KNOW for a fact that changing your thinking is the key. I started this positive journey at the beginning of this year. I am now twenty-seven and content and happier than I have ever been. It has nothing to do with money or being with a man or anything like that. It's all about how I see things now. Positive people go through problems but the difference with us is that we know that the problems won't always last. We know that even if we are dying, ill, lonely, poor, homeless, lost in life or depressed that these things will happen, yet we know there must be something better waiting to erase the bad times. If you can't believe that then you won't be able to live any kind of life. That is the real tragedy. Things can happen to us that damage us for life but it's how we choose to think of things that really helps.

You want to know what really kept me being positive? When I realized that the problems I had weren't a hill of beans compared to a lot of other people's. Go out there and see someone with real problems. I am talking about the little kids dying in the children's hospitals. Here are tiny little tots who have been born with life-threatening illnesses and know that it's only a matter of time before death. Does that steal their need to enjoy life? NO. They are some of the most positive people on this earth. It amazed me how a little kid with cancer wasn't afraid of death waiting for them but firmly embraces life. I saw then, that I didn't have reason to complain about anything. My problems were squat compared to them. The war pounded that into my head too. When I realized how many people die every day for a war that shouldn't have happened, I knew I didn't have any excuse complaining about my life. Hell, I'm healthy and I have a family that loves me. That's now enough for me. Sadly it wasn't before but that wasn't anyone's fault but mine. It wasn't anyone's fault that I kept counting what I didn't have in life instead of what I did. You know what really did it? One was that two people in my life became ill and when I saw how positive they were, I knew I had no business thinking otherwise. Now I am not saying being positive will solve all of our problems. Yes, if it is our time to leave this earth then nothing will change that. We are going to get diseases, have heartbreak, even lose our homes, money or loved ones. My point is to think positively while being here because that is the only way you can cherish the life you are given. Another thing that made me stay positive was the Katrina tragedy. Thousands of people lost everything yet a lot of them got on television with smiles, just happy to be alive. I realized then that if these people can lose their family members, homes and still go on with a smile and be optimistic, then I damn sure could! I thought that no one had a right to be negative about anything if the Katrina victims could come out smiling. Can you imagine how it must feel to have lost everything yet the federal government and the Mayor of New Orleans don't give a damn? Everyday the government is taking away a promise they made to help these people. The Mayor of New Orleans doesn't want these people back, in case you don't know. He can't rebuild neighborhoods but he can put up casinos? And please don't believe that pitiful ploy that he really wants people back now, it's election time. What other reasons would there be? I am from Houston. I see the strain with my own eyes. It's effected us all. The Katrina victims are no longer thousands but millions because we are all together in this now.

I will forever preach being positive. If anyone disagrees I suggest they go talk to people who may not see another day but can still get up and live the little time they have to the fullest. I really admire these people. And I am grateful because people who have suffered more than me showed me the light. I now count my blessings instead of counting problems. I know that a setback is a challenge to be faced instead of a failure. Back in the day, everything wrong seemed like a slap in my face. I know it was my fault. I wasn't educated (mentally) enough to realize that I had the power to live life the way I wanted. I didn't have to always be sad. I didn't have to spend hours crying. I didn't have to not like the way I look or to think that no one wanted me around. It was all in my head. Being positive is a day to day struggle but I see the rewards at every turn. Also, I have helped people by being positive. My best friend from overseas was down to the ground when we met. I helped her with things when she had no one to turn to. Believe me she hasn't had an easy life. She is now stronger and happier than she's ever been. She says it's because of me, always telling her to be positive. I nearly cried. So I know it helps. Anyone who disputes this hasn't learned the art of being positive. And I'm afraid your problems and life will only get worse until you do. If we don't think those things will get better for us, then who will? And why even be alive if you don't look forward to living?

I used to wish I were dead back in the day. Now I only wish for more of a life to live.

Just wanted to share. And please, don't give up. Being positive works. You just have to see for yourself. Until you do, you won't see the true rewards in life. We need to stop stealing our own happiness and go back to creating it. Bad things will happen to us all, but being positive shows us that some good is still around the corner. I firmly believe that above anything else.

With love,
Stacy

Remaining Positive

Hi All,

I guess you have noticed that I haven't been handing you the in-depth topics that I usually try to share. Well, I will get better. Just forgive me right now. This is a very stressful period for me. The holidays are here in which I have no Christmas spirit. Don't blame me it's just how I am feeling. I am looking forward to sharing the day with family and that's all that is important to me. Presents and gifts don't mean anything to me. Once you get a certain age you start to value the real importance of life. Give me family and love any time. Gifts can't support you or give you love right?

I have also started the third book in my latest series. It's hard to write on different stories while finding an agent for another one. I feel disappointed with a lot of things. I am going through so many different emotions. I have been kind of depressed but I'll make due. I also haven't been feeling well lately. I injured my hip and I am going through a lot of pain. I am also still having problems with my wrist. I may have set up that syndrome (I can’t remember the name) that is caused from too much typing. My wrists get sore from time to time and sometimes they do get a little weak. Sometimes I hold my hands up and my fingers are shaking. Don't worry, I am keeping an eye on things. I have been lying down a lot due to the pain from my hip. So that is another reason why I haven't been feeling too great.

I am remaining positive with things all around. I haven't been blogging as much because I haven't had the time to devote to it like I used to. That is the reason why I haven't been able to visit some of my blog buddies' blogs but I am going to get better. You know how things are. You just get busy and things pop up that you don’t plan on.

I love the wintertime but I do think it does something to my mood that I can't control. I wouldn't call it exactly winter blues but…well we all feel this way sometimes. At least I practice what I preach. I tell others to stay positive and in that I will too. There is no good in being negative is there? Also, I know things will work out for me the way I want them to. I just have to be patient. Like mom says, things happen when you least expect it. But if you deserve them, they do happen. So I just wanted to let you know about some things. I am doing fine, except for this pain. I hope all of you are well too.

Happy blogging!
Bootsy

As you can see Blogger is having problems again! My profile and links magically ended up at the bottom of the page. It was nothing I did. It was fine yesterday then when I looked at it, it was like this. I hope Blogger finally gets their act together.

I Knew I Was a Diva!

Okay the article on Eurweb declared me Author Diva a few months back. Remember, I mentioned it on the blog? Well go to my site and look at my interviews/articles if you missed it.
I knew I was a diva! Okay, kill me. I love the finer things in life, I'm accustomed to them and I damn well DESERVE them. But I do work hard. I'm not some little prissy thing that expects people to wait on her hand and foot, they just do...LOL! So down below all hails the proof that Stacy-Deanne AKA Bootsy is Author Diva now and forever! Are YOU a diva? I dare you to take the quiz to find out. And let's not fight, ladies. Everyone can't be the queen like me, LOL! Okay I am not queen but sometimes I act like it.

You're Part Diva

You know that a girl's gotta work it to get her way in the world. And while you aren't about to throw a tantrum at every turn... You do amp up the drama when you know you need it. You mix charm, honesty, and kindness to get ahead.

Are You a Diva?

The Kind of People I Admire

A person who believes in themselves enough to follow their dreams.

A person who sees setbacks as challenges instead of failures.

A person who has pride in themselves enough to be their own person.

A person who is not afraid to stand alone in their beliefs and judgement

Anyone who is a leader and not a follower

A person who remains true to themselves instead of letting society dictate the kind of person they should be or what they believe in

A person who sees their shortcomings as gifts even when others see them as ' faults '

A person who doesn't rely on others to make their decisions for them

A person who is not afraid to say what they mean even if the group disagrees

A person who admits when they are wrong

A person who loves who they want to love and the way they want to love them

A person who values education and intelligence

A person who likes the way they look even if society considers them unattractive

A person who realizes that mental health is as important as physical health

A person who says " thank you " for the smallest of things

A person who says, " I love you " regularly and means it

A person who is not afraid to show their love for someone when others are around

A person who respects themselves to the point where they would rather be alone than used

A person who knows that the ' meaning of life ' is what the individual makes it

A person who knows that they can have a life without having friends (especially the wrong friends)

A person who has no tolerance for someone doing harmful and hurtful things

A person who can admit to someone that another person is better at something than they are

A person who can be proud of someone else's successes instead of jealous of them

A person who would rather be alone than disrespected

A person who adopts children even when they can have them

A person who never makes excuses

A person who can discipline themselves in order to do better

A person who can teach others but is also an optimistic student towards things they aren't sure of

A person who admits they don’t know something instead of pretending they always do

A person who doesn't curse or shot but gets their point over in a calm and respectable way

A person who's not afraid to dust themselves off and try again

A person who's creativity puts them in a class of their own.

A person who minds their own business and respect others' choices in life

Last but not least…

* A person who is not afraid to tell society to f--- off in order to be their own person

The photo is of the Spice Girls. And no I am not a fan of their music or anything. I did admire them for being so different though. So I felt they were the perfect photo to include with this. Hope you like my list and if any of this describes you then you are A-okay in my book!

Bootsy

Goodbye Richard Pryor

I will miss him very much. Richard is an icon who paved the way for black comedians like Eddie Murphy, Chris Rock, D.L. Hughley, Chris Tucker & many, many more. I am greatly saddened. Richard never lived a model life but despite his personal problems he will always be seen as a major asset to the black community. (Sigh), another pathfinder bites the dust.

R.I.P. Richard

What's Up With Me?

Hola All!

Just showing up quickly to give you a rundown. I know I haven't been posting much lately but I wanted to prove that I haven't fallen off the face of the earth. Things are up in the air right now so that is why I haven't been blogging much right now. Okay, what's up with me? Why haven't I updated as much lately?

Been busy and then some!

1. The agent search is going pretty good so far. I got my fingers crossed. I've gotten positive replies from some agents.I have my eye on one agent especially. I hope I get this one particularly but if not I will stay positive. I have a feeling the others I contact will be interested as well. See what being positive gets you?

I should be finished with one of my novels by the end of the week. Remember the sequel I was working on? Well, it's finally over. I'd gotten cold feet with it over the last few days. I know how I want everything to end up but it's always hard for me to get to the ending. So I have been working on that.

2. Getting ready for the holidays and putting together a list of things needed to be done. I am very happy because things are going well with my life and my family. I would share but it's personal so…just know that being positive has helped. I know this New Year will be great because unlike the past, I plan to start this year off right by being positive from the get go.

3. One reason I haven't been updating much is because I kind of lost my passion for blogging. I still enjoy it but not as much right now because there seems to be more hurtful drama than it used to be. I haven't even had a chance to surf the blogs I usually read because sometimes you come across something that you just don't want to deal with. We all can do what we want on our blogs but I know it's not just me that's noticed this change. This is one reason why I haven't been as into my blog as before. I'll just concentrate on what I am doing and not on others. I like to take blogs as a way of relaxation but lately it's been stressful to even read some of them. I'd hate to think blogging is turning sour for good. I hope all this drama can finally die.

4. Been watching loads of good DVD's! It's been so long since I found some good movies that when I start watching them I don't stop. So this is one reason I don’t even feel like getting on the computer.

Just wanted to let you know what's up with me. Have a good day! Adios!

That picture is from one of my all-time favorite movies, The Breakfast Club! It is my favorite brat pack movie, the absolute best! 85' was a bad a—year if I say so myself! I was a little pup but still, I loved 1985 baby! True 80's kids and fans hold this classic dear to their hearts. Bootsy's a brat pack fan for life! My favorite brat packer was Judd Nelson! He was sooooo fine!

Who Were You in a Past Life?

In a Past Life...

You Were: A Redhead Chief. Where You Lived: Egypt. How You Died: In Childbirth.

Who Were You In a Past Life?

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What You Won't/Will Get From Me

Okay, what's with all this blog blues? I have noticed that what started out as fun and lightweight has turned quite controversial. Sure, people can post about what they want on their blogs but a lot of people have turned to offending lately and I, like so many others am sick of it. So let me, " The Voice " give a message to all my blog visitors out there and especially my regulars…

What you won't get from me:

You won't get a speech on politics. (Whom you vote for is your business)

You won't get a lecture on religion. (Whom you pray to or don't pray to is your business)

You won't get a passage on homosexuality. (Whom you love and screw is definitely your business).

You won't get a drawn out history lesson dealing on racial injustice. (Not on this blog, baby).

You won't find lines and lines of poetry. (There are plenty of poetioc bloggers out there so go visit them for a poetic spark. I'm a novelist, not a poet.)

Weight loss tips (Shoot you knew you were fat when you logged onto my blog. What kind of tips am I going to give you?)

Vulgar language or perverted, trashy sex talk (I'm a lady!)

Whining (Read a man's blog the other day and it was twelve passages of how bad his life was and how he hadn't been laid since the 70's. Needless to say it wasn't pretty). I wanted to slap him. It was truly pathetic. I was like, " Dude don't let the whole world know you're a loser! Now you sure as heck won't get laid. "

Bottom line is my blog is to entertain, relax and mystify. I hope you find it funny. I hope you find it enlightening. And I hope I never ever offend you. That is why I stay away from controversy. Some people run to it, I don't. I get enough attention. I don't need to draw up more by causing trouble. And let's face it, speaking too much about the topics above cause a lot of trouble.

What you will get from me…

My opinions on everything from ice cream to men.

Anything dealing with the 80's

A feminist's view on life in general.

Writing tips

Funny topics that will make you laugh so hard you pee.

Bitching & Moaning

Anything that's the opposite of vulgarity

Topics that are vibrant, funny yet brilliant

Commentary on erections now and then

Great pictures of Madonna

Great pictures of me

Self-praise for my boobs

Reviews or mention of books, movies, and music I like.

Endless, shameless self promotion (Oh, have you gotten the book yet?) LOL!

So come all, far and wide. You are welcomed and know that this blog has no intentions of offending or upsetting. I don't want to hurt you. Well maybe if you don’t buy the book I will. Did I mention the shameless promotion yet? Buy my book! Please, I'll be your best friend. LOL! Seriously buy it…or I'll kill you. I swear I will.

Fun, fun, fun! Welcome to Bootsy's world. That's me in the pic, ain't I perty?