The Positive Syndrome: It Works

(This is long but something I hope you will like and something I really wanted to write).

This is a syndrome that is spreading and I am glad it is. It's reached a lot of people. It's reached me so I will forever preach it. What is the positive syndrome? Of course, it's just being positive. I am writing this as a feed off of my comments section from my last post. I just want to say this to people who think that being positive doesn't work or isn't worth the effort…

First of all, I don't ever wish anything bad on anyone. And if someone is going through a hard time I wish them luck and help through their situation. But let me tell you that it starts by being positive. If you don't believe that, then you have yet to discover the real meaning of life. I believe the meaning of life is to be able to live carefree, joyously with love and patience. But you cannot live this way if you are not positive about the roads a head. We all have problems. Some of us think our problems are bigger than we are but the fact is that we are ALLOWING them to be. I don't care what kind of life you've had there is always someone whose life is ten times worse. And believe me, these people are often the most positive ones. How did my journey of being positive begin?

I've gone through emotional problems and personal problems like you won't believe. I never loved myself. I lived my childhood hating myself and with that I believed others hated me too. Sure I had friends but I was never happy. Do you know how pathetic it is to be twenty-three or twenty-four and say you've never really been happy? Well it's quite pathetic and I am no longer at that stage in my life. Thank goodness. The fact is, I know times can be tough and hard but I KNOW for a fact that changing your thinking is the key. I started this positive journey at the beginning of this year. I am now twenty-seven and content and happier than I have ever been. It has nothing to do with money or being with a man or anything like that. It's all about how I see things now. Positive people go through problems but the difference with us is that we know that the problems won't always last. We know that even if we are dying, ill, lonely, poor, homeless, lost in life or depressed that these things will happen, yet we know there must be something better waiting to erase the bad times. If you can't believe that then you won't be able to live any kind of life. That is the real tragedy. Things can happen to us that damage us for life but it's how we choose to think of things that really helps.

You want to know what really kept me being positive? When I realized that the problems I had weren't a hill of beans compared to a lot of other people's. Go out there and see someone with real problems. I am talking about the little kids dying in the children's hospitals. Here are tiny little tots who have been born with life-threatening illnesses and know that it's only a matter of time before death. Does that steal their need to enjoy life? NO. They are some of the most positive people on this earth. It amazed me how a little kid with cancer wasn't afraid of death waiting for them but firmly embraces life. I saw then, that I didn't have reason to complain about anything. My problems were squat compared to them. The war pounded that into my head too. When I realized how many people die every day for a war that shouldn't have happened, I knew I didn't have any excuse complaining about my life. Hell, I'm healthy and I have a family that loves me. That's now enough for me. Sadly it wasn't before but that wasn't anyone's fault but mine. It wasn't anyone's fault that I kept counting what I didn't have in life instead of what I did. You know what really did it? One was that two people in my life became ill and when I saw how positive they were, I knew I had no business thinking otherwise. Now I am not saying being positive will solve all of our problems. Yes, if it is our time to leave this earth then nothing will change that. We are going to get diseases, have heartbreak, even lose our homes, money or loved ones. My point is to think positively while being here because that is the only way you can cherish the life you are given. Another thing that made me stay positive was the Katrina tragedy. Thousands of people lost everything yet a lot of them got on television with smiles, just happy to be alive. I realized then that if these people can lose their family members, homes and still go on with a smile and be optimistic, then I damn sure could! I thought that no one had a right to be negative about anything if the Katrina victims could come out smiling. Can you imagine how it must feel to have lost everything yet the federal government and the Mayor of New Orleans don't give a damn? Everyday the government is taking away a promise they made to help these people. The Mayor of New Orleans doesn't want these people back, in case you don't know. He can't rebuild neighborhoods but he can put up casinos? And please don't believe that pitiful ploy that he really wants people back now, it's election time. What other reasons would there be? I am from Houston. I see the strain with my own eyes. It's effected us all. The Katrina victims are no longer thousands but millions because we are all together in this now.

I will forever preach being positive. If anyone disagrees I suggest they go talk to people who may not see another day but can still get up and live the little time they have to the fullest. I really admire these people. And I am grateful because people who have suffered more than me showed me the light. I now count my blessings instead of counting problems. I know that a setback is a challenge to be faced instead of a failure. Back in the day, everything wrong seemed like a slap in my face. I know it was my fault. I wasn't educated (mentally) enough to realize that I had the power to live life the way I wanted. I didn't have to always be sad. I didn't have to spend hours crying. I didn't have to not like the way I look or to think that no one wanted me around. It was all in my head. Being positive is a day to day struggle but I see the rewards at every turn. Also, I have helped people by being positive. My best friend from overseas was down to the ground when we met. I helped her with things when she had no one to turn to. Believe me she hasn't had an easy life. She is now stronger and happier than she's ever been. She says it's because of me, always telling her to be positive. I nearly cried. So I know it helps. Anyone who disputes this hasn't learned the art of being positive. And I'm afraid your problems and life will only get worse until you do. If we don't think those things will get better for us, then who will? And why even be alive if you don't look forward to living?

I used to wish I were dead back in the day. Now I only wish for more of a life to live.

Just wanted to share. And please, don't give up. Being positive works. You just have to see for yourself. Until you do, you won't see the true rewards in life. We need to stop stealing our own happiness and go back to creating it. Bad things will happen to us all, but being positive shows us that some good is still around the corner. I firmly believe that above anything else.

With love,
Stacy