Is Somebody Standing in YOUR Backyard?

" See somebody standin' in your own backyard. Somebody's try'na steal your man. "

Remember that song, 1991's " Backyard " by Pebbles? Man I loved that song and I still do. I've been listening to Pebbles' Greatest Hits album and this song sparked this topic. For you who may not know what this means, if you haven’t heard the song, she's speaking of home wreckers (namely women) who purposely become friends with a woman with only one goal in mind: to steal that woman's man. Now I can't stand female home wreckers. It's probably because I'm a feminist and when other women f--- up it looks bad for the rest of us. Or maybe it's the fact that I can't stand someone who purposely hurts someone. Yeah, it takes two to tango but right now I want to talk about the people uh…women in the backyards.

I remember a situation about a woman who said that for five years her girlfriend was telling her that her man was a dog. (Janet) constantly told (Tamara), that her man, (Aaron) was a dog. Oh man Janet went for years saying that Tamara should get rid of the dirty sucker because he was straight up no good. So of course thinking Janet was her true friend Tamara dumped Aaron and really had no cause to. She told Janet in which Janet consoled Tamara. For a few weeks Tamara hadn't heard from Janet. She starts to call, " Where you been, girl? We haven't hanged in a while. What's up? " Course Janet gives her the runaround claiming she's been working, blah, blah, blah, blah right?

So a week later Tamara's at the mall with another friend, Michelle. Michelle, who is a true friend, has radar that goes off a mile away. Meaning if she knows someone and they are anywhere near the vicinity, she can sense them. " Tam, girl isn't that Janet over there? And, isn't that Aaron on her arm? Girl! " Michelle gawks at Tamara. Tamara drops her packages. " No it, it couldn't be! " Michelle crosses her arms. " Yes it could be girl and it is. Look at that bull. Janet been telling you all this time Aaron wasn't any good then look at her trifling ass all up on him. " " Yeah. " Tamara weeps. " I see. "

Man Pebble's song rings truth. A lot of men don't know that when a woman's friend comes onto you it's not necessarily because you are so fine so don't get big headed. Women have a need to compete with one another. Now good, decent women would never mess with her best friend or sister's man of course. But you have women who don't even want the man. He could be ugly as sin but only wants him because he's taken or she's one of those perpetrators who pretend to be a woman's friend when she's really so jealous of her she can't wait to stick it to her some way. What better way than screwing or stealing the other woman's man? Some women will not think twice about stealing their friend or sister's husbands or lovers. They do it, move to another friend and do it all over again. Men don't know that this is a game some women run on them. It's a cruel scam that festers on emotions. We (women) know that we render you helpless. You see the curve in our breasts, the hump of our rump and the flip of our hip and all y'all go crazy. And when we finally put it on ya'…oh my! You're gone for good aren't you? That's why when men get around a flirtatious woman they lose all sense of knowledge.

So here is my warning to the ladies. It's up to you to be the smart ones in the relationship. Stop telling women you don't know that well your business! Look around. Do you have a woman in your backyard? You got a ' new ' friend who's too friendly with you? You got someone who just popped into your life but acts like she can give you all the advice in the world about ' your ' man? You got a woman that your oldest girlfriend can't stand and keeps telling you something's not right with this new chick yet you refuse to believe her? Does your ' new ' friend insist that other women would want to steal your man and that she's ' helping ' you against that? Yeah right. Uh-huh. Sure you got a friend like this.

My advice to you is shut the hell up and stop telling every thing! Does any of this seem familiar to you? Well I suggest you put a tighter leash around your man. Or at least put a damn fence around your backyard.

' Cause they are out there and I don't care how fine you think you are, they can take your man. They have before and they will do it again.

I'm out…