Toot Your Own Horn!
Hi All,
I recently heard of a situation where a woman was coming up in the literary industry. She’d just received a publishing contract with a major publisher. Well, she said she’d been announcing it to friends and family. She also said she announced it to coworkers. She said that though some people supported her, some felt she was being “ arrogant “ by tooting her own horn. She wondered if she should have been low key with her celebration. It was truly bothering her that people weren’t joining in on her celebrations but chose to make her feel bad by saying she shouldn’t have been so outwardly proud.
Why the hell not?
I see nothing wrong with someone tooting his or her own horn. Tooting your horn isn’t being arrogant or bragging. Tooting your horn is healthy. There is absolutely nothing wrong with someone being proud of what they’ve accomplished. Whenever I do something big you can damn well believe I shout it from the rooftops. A lot of people advised the lady that she had a right to be proud of herself. She’d worked hard with what she’d accomplished. I always find that if someone thinks you shouldn’t celebrate your accomplishments it’s because they are jealous. Yep, we are right back to the big J again aren’t we? These folks who chose to criticize her for showing pride were completely jealous and probably just wanted her to be quiet.
Tooting your own horn every once in a while isn’t bragging. Bragging is when someone tries to diminish other people’s accomplishments with everything they do. That is a person who brags. People shouldn’t feel guilty for being proud of what they’ve done. If you’ve got a promotion scream it to the world! If you just landed a good job shout it high! If you just graduated medical school throw a damn party! If you just bought a five-story home after working hard for years sing your praises!
Don’t listen to those who piss on your proud moments. These are moments that mean a lot to you and even if folks are jealous it doesn’t make you a bad person to enjoy what you’ve done. I say go out there and toot your own horn whenever you feel the need! If you accomplished something then you damn well deserve to! Forget those who say you shouldn’t. Everyone who’s worked hard at something has a right to his or her moment to shine.
Have a good weekend!
The photo is Lil’…oh excuse me…it’s just ‘ Bow Wow ‘ now, LOL! Isn’t he cute?
Bootsy
posted by Stacy-Deanne @ 6:23 PM
10 Comments:
I agree, celebrities hire a publicist and no one thinks anything of it. Sometimes we've got to be our own publicist.
And yeah, B.W. is a cutie and his dad isn't bad either. :)
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Oops I made a boo-boo so I had to delete my own comment, LOL!
Hi Ms Maybelline welcome! I agree if you mean about personal things but in terms of a career especially then people are going to know anyway. If someone gets a publishing deal or gets their first role in a movie, folks are gonna find out. What's really stupid to me is when folks win the lottery then they have their face plastered all over the television. That's just asking for trouble. I, myself am low-key and never really congratulated myself for anything I did well. That wasn't healthy. We all need to start supporting ourselves a little or else we can't expect others to support us. I think it's important to do that once in a while. If people really care for you then they will rejoice with you. It's the jealous ones who won't take the time. But who needs them anyway? LOL. Sometimes the only person cheering for us is ourselves. Thanks for posting!
Kat, LOL! Good point.
I feel you on this, I myself tend to keep a low-key approach with my accomplishments. But I can't fault anyone who worked hard that wants to toot his own horn.
I guess you gotta sell yourself - after all if you dont believe in you who will ?
cheers
Its a matter of choice.If the person keeeps mentioning what they did in every other breath then it can get annoying.But nothing wrong per se with celebrating
I know this woman who is pregnant and every time you see her she's going on about the upcoming child. Okay, having a baby is wonderful right? But you get tired of it being bragged upon like no one else can have a baby. And people can see she's pregnant you don't have to mention it all the time (especially when the baby is out of wedlock).
I also remember a lady who went on and on about getting married like she had such a great man. Well that was three years ago and they're now divorced. It makes no sense to constantly go over something, especially when other people can do it too. It makes you run from people who have to shout something over and over. You're pregnant, okay we get the picture! LOL! Like I said, you can be proud for yourself. If you do something big or unique fine. But don't get knocked up or get engaged and think you're the best thing in the world because of this. That's arrogance and it's also very annoying.
Nothing wrong with tooting your own horn. Sadly enough some people will take that as bragging. That would be their very own personal issue. I guess it's a matter of knowing with whom I can toot my own horn & knowing who just needs to read about it elsewhere. I'm rejoicing with anybody who's doing their thing in a positive way. Positive energy begets positive energy!
First my daughter love her some Bow Wow. If you don't toot your own horn, who will? No one.... so many player haters, so many jealous souls, so sad that people can't support each other.
MsJayy/Rose---You know you're BOTH right. The point is there is a difference between being proud and being arrogant. People have the right to be happy for themselves and if the world were a perfect one a lot of people would be proud for others too. Unfortunately that's not how it works. Most times when someone cannot congratulate the success of someone (especially a person closer to them) it's because something is lacking in their own life or their career. Anyway, it doesn't matter what others think if the person wants to toot their own horn, let them. If you get tired of it, don't listen, LOL! That's what I do. Plus, you can spot an arrogant person from someone who is just happy that something finally went their way. Being proud is not unhealthy but believing that you've failed at everything is.
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