Is Somebody Standing in YOUR Backyard?

" See somebody standin' in your own backyard. Somebody's try'na steal your man. "

Remember that song, 1991's " Backyard " by Pebbles? Man I loved that song and I still do. I've been listening to Pebbles' Greatest Hits album and this song sparked this topic. For you who may not know what this means, if you haven’t heard the song, she's speaking of home wreckers (namely women) who purposely become friends with a woman with only one goal in mind: to steal that woman's man. Now I can't stand female home wreckers. It's probably because I'm a feminist and when other women f--- up it looks bad for the rest of us. Or maybe it's the fact that I can't stand someone who purposely hurts someone. Yeah, it takes two to tango but right now I want to talk about the people uh…women in the backyards.

I remember a situation about a woman who said that for five years her girlfriend was telling her that her man was a dog. (Janet) constantly told (Tamara), that her man, (Aaron) was a dog. Oh man Janet went for years saying that Tamara should get rid of the dirty sucker because he was straight up no good. So of course thinking Janet was her true friend Tamara dumped Aaron and really had no cause to. She told Janet in which Janet consoled Tamara. For a few weeks Tamara hadn't heard from Janet. She starts to call, " Where you been, girl? We haven't hanged in a while. What's up? " Course Janet gives her the runaround claiming she's been working, blah, blah, blah, blah right?

So a week later Tamara's at the mall with another friend, Michelle. Michelle, who is a true friend, has radar that goes off a mile away. Meaning if she knows someone and they are anywhere near the vicinity, she can sense them. " Tam, girl isn't that Janet over there? And, isn't that Aaron on her arm? Girl! " Michelle gawks at Tamara. Tamara drops her packages. " No it, it couldn't be! " Michelle crosses her arms. " Yes it could be girl and it is. Look at that bull. Janet been telling you all this time Aaron wasn't any good then look at her trifling ass all up on him. " " Yeah. " Tamara weeps. " I see. "

Man Pebble's song rings truth. A lot of men don't know that when a woman's friend comes onto you it's not necessarily because you are so fine so don't get big headed. Women have a need to compete with one another. Now good, decent women would never mess with her best friend or sister's man of course. But you have women who don't even want the man. He could be ugly as sin but only wants him because he's taken or she's one of those perpetrators who pretend to be a woman's friend when she's really so jealous of her she can't wait to stick it to her some way. What better way than screwing or stealing the other woman's man? Some women will not think twice about stealing their friend or sister's husbands or lovers. They do it, move to another friend and do it all over again. Men don't know that this is a game some women run on them. It's a cruel scam that festers on emotions. We (women) know that we render you helpless. You see the curve in our breasts, the hump of our rump and the flip of our hip and all y'all go crazy. And when we finally put it on ya'…oh my! You're gone for good aren't you? That's why when men get around a flirtatious woman they lose all sense of knowledge.

So here is my warning to the ladies. It's up to you to be the smart ones in the relationship. Stop telling women you don't know that well your business! Look around. Do you have a woman in your backyard? You got a ' new ' friend who's too friendly with you? You got someone who just popped into your life but acts like she can give you all the advice in the world about ' your ' man? You got a woman that your oldest girlfriend can't stand and keeps telling you something's not right with this new chick yet you refuse to believe her? Does your ' new ' friend insist that other women would want to steal your man and that she's ' helping ' you against that? Yeah right. Uh-huh. Sure you got a friend like this.

My advice to you is shut the hell up and stop telling every thing! Does any of this seem familiar to you? Well I suggest you put a tighter leash around your man. Or at least put a damn fence around your backyard.

' Cause they are out there and I don't care how fine you think you are, they can take your man. They have before and they will do it again.

I'm out…

Pat Morita: More Than an Actor to Me

Okay, you all know I am an 80's child. And you can't see how much Pat's death has hit someone until you go into the mind of a person brought up in the 1980's. To some, Pat was just an actor but he was more than that to me. I was a little girl when Karate Kid came out in 1984. I was too young to understand the entire movie but still I enjoyed it. Course I've seen it a thousand times since then so I understand it all now.

What made that movie so famous and special was how a boy who had no friends and felt he belonged nowhere found more love from an older gentleman than he could find anywhere else. It was the bond between Daniel (Ralph Macchio) and Mr. Miyagi (Pat Morita) that made fans come alive for appreciation of this movie. I used to see Karate Kid and say, " Why are they showing this again? " Because we all know they showed it every week. But now I will be sad and probably won't be able to watch it because now that Pat's dead I am only going to be reminded of how long ago my childhood was, and how much I miss the 80's. Some people may see Karate Kid as just a film that spawned sequels but it was more than that.

You think the talk over Titanic was huge, it wasn't anything compared to the popularity of The Karate Kid. That film still lives on in the hearts of many adults and reminds them how it was to be a child of the 80's. The effect this film has on the 80's generation is amazing. You won't find anyone in the world who hasn't heard of or seen this movie at least once. Joining the ranks of action films like Rocky, Star Wars and Rambo, it can't be forgotten and it will never be replaced. Even films like Titanic won't ever duplicate the emotional foundation The Karate Kid has on generations.

When the film came out there was a video game, lunch kits, cartoon series, books, clothes, dolls…anything you could imagine that could be made for a movie was made. The Karate Kid is a film that could never be replaced and though I sometimes get sick of watching it, I will never get sick of seeing the bond between Daniel and Mr. Miyagi. Why? Because it was a true friendship, a friendship that anyone would be lucky to have. A friendship that people only dream of. A friendship that can move mountains, enabling anything to happen.

I will miss Pat very much. By the way, I am crying right now.

The Man in the Bra & Panty Section

I forgot about something that happened to me a couple of weeks ago. After months of not finding the time, I finally was able to go shopping for some new bras. I was glad I'd finally gone because I was in dire need of some new bras. I didn't plan to get too many seeing how expensive bras are these days. Anyway, let me tell you what happened…

I don't think men should be allowed in women's clothing shops because it just makes it too uncomfortable. These places are already tiny and there is limited space. Changing rooms are right in the front of the store where anyone can see you. I also don't think it's comfortable to have to shop for bras and panties with a man around. Women know that for some reason women's clothing shops put all the bras and panties right in the middle of the store where anyone can see them. So it makes it hard for a woman to pick out her underwear with a strange man around. Usually you won't find a man in a woman's shop but this time there was one.

My mom and I had our hearts set on finding a particular bra. I wanted a sexy cute push-up. I was happy to see that a lot of new bras had come out since I last shopped for some. My beef was that when I was in the panty section, I felt someone staring at me. You know how you can feel eyes on you? Well when I turned to the side there was a Latino dude (maybe in his early 40's) just gawking. He looked suspicious because he just milled around and he didn't appear to be with a woman. You have to be leery of men in women's shops by themselves. You never know what's about to happen. And the way he had his hands tucked in his jacket made me think he was casing the joint. And I also wondered why he had on a jacket when it was 90 degrees in Houston that day. Everyone else is sweating and he has on a jacket.

Anyway…he kept walking around the panty table when I was there. Other women were just shopping like nobody's business. You have to understand something. There is a difference between older women and young ones when it comes to being comfortable in certain situations. Now it may not seem like a big deal to an older woman to pick out her underwear in front of a strange man but being my age, I found it very weird. I didn't want this man to see what kind of underwear I wore and it was disrespectful the way he kept gazing at me. I didn't see any panties I liked so I moved on to the bra section. My mom was looking at some bras on the other side of the shop. I whispered a couple of words to her then I went over to the other part of the store with the lace bras. I found some I liked very much. They had a million colors but I had my heart set on the black and the lavender. So I search for my size. As I am searching, guess who comes up behind me? The Latino dude. Now I look around. The other women are going on about their business. No one else seemed to notice him but I did. Anyway, I searched the black bras first. I found my size. When I looked around, he was snickering at me. He tried to turn away very fast but I saw him. I went to the lavender bras but I wasn't about to pick one out because I didn't want this man seeing what kind of bras I wore or my cup size or anything else personal. You may think I was overreacting but the entire situation made me feel weird. Why was he walking around with his hands in his pockets but didn't seem to know what he wanted? It's not that I thought he was there to do a crime. It's that I thought he was some kind of pervert. And why did he seem to be following me?

When his back was turned I searched for a lavender bra and got it. I hurried to the other side. My mother found me two other nice bras. I told her about the man. She looked around. He was still milling around. She didn't feel too comfortable also. I didn't let that spoil my spirits. At least I'd found my new bras. But hey, I really don't think it's a good idea to let men just roam around women clothing stores. As if it isn't embarrassing enough that your underwear is out for the world to see, you don't want someone seeing you pick yours out too, LOL! By the way, when we left, he was still in there milling around. I bet he never bought a thing. The pervert…LOL! Just wanted to share.

Bootsy

P.S. Those bras looked heavenly on me!

In Defense of Authors: The Author's Life

I will start by disclosing how I've changed since entering the literary world. I had no idea the life of a published writer was so complicated but it is. It seems like the more successful you get, new people enter your life, you go through new situations and all kinds of different things come up. It is an exciting life, a fun ride but most of all it is very exhausting. I'm not complaining because you all know how much I love my career. It comes to my attention, as I read different things that the main complaint readers have with authors is either not answering fan mail or not answering fan mail on time. Well, let me break down the structure of an author for you.

Please don't be quick to believe that just because an author doesn't respond to you that they are being stuck-up or rude. Okay, some are but the majority is not. Authors enjoy getting mail from readers and fans. The ones who don't will let you know by asking you not to send anything either through actions of their reputation or by saying it flat out on their sites, etc. But I don't know an author personally who doesn't want mail. They may just not read it if they are not interested but hey…some people are like that. When you write an author, did you know that most times you are not only writing the author? A lot of authors do not want personal mail coming straight to them so they have this structure set up…

To the publisher…to the agent…to the author. Why? Well, let's see. There are a lot of weirdoes in the world. Today authors want their mail read before they get them in case there's trouble. Being a literary entertainer is not easy. You have all kinds of things that can crop up. You have lawsuits, stalkers, harassers, other writers looking for handouts, fundraisers asking for your help, charities, foundations, and all types of people who may write an author. So a lot of authors would rather have the good mail separated from the bad. Let me also say that most authors find it disrespectful if you write them asking them to critique your work. Why? The author's life is terribly hectic. You must understand. We barely have enough time for our own work so it gets hard to get such requests when you never asked for them. Most authors think of this as harassment. My word of advice is to only contact a writer for a critique if THEY approach you. Some will see your work and want to help you out if you've got potential. But it's very disheartening to have people think you owe them favors. I never thought of approaching another writer to get my foot in the door. That wasn't me. I felt it was more important to focus on publishers and agents. So that is one big reason why some people's mail is not answered. Believe me, you send an author mail asking them to help you get published or look over your work then don't be surprised if you don't hear back.

Now back to the actual mailing…

It's easier to get through to authors with their own PO addresses (like me) because most times it means they read their own mail. The problem is that when it comes to getting mail if you're the only one reading it, it will take you longer to respond. People correspond with me mostly through email. I imagine that's how it is for other authors but you do get the occasional snail mail fans too. It's just that it's the age of technology so emailing is what more people do these days. Some authors get so much mail they can't possibly answer it all but they try. Also if you really want a response from your favorite writer, write them again if they haven't gotten back to you in a certain amount of time. Your letter or email may have gotten lost. Computers and post offices aren't perfect you know?

You know what the biggest questions to authors from readers are?

" Do you really answer your fan mail? " and " How come when you write authors they never write you back? "

I believe most authors try to answer mail ASAP. I tell you, the author's life is very busy. You have no idea. We do so much in a week it's amazing we don't lose our heads. Well, some of us do LOL! Let me break it down for you.

What authors have to deal with:
People & Situations (agents, publishers, editors, publicists the media, etc.) That's a lot of folks isn't it? Tell me about it. Now look at the situations that go along with this. (Phone calls, emails, interviews (radio, television), photo shoots, magazines, traveling, book signings, book tours, visiting book stores, public speaking, charities, literary events, etc.) Sometimes authors have lunches with big Hollywood folks such as Stephen Spielberg if you're trying to get your books turned into movies. These are the people authors deal with on a regular basis and they take up a bulk of our time. And, we always must put these people first. It doesn't mean that the fans or readers don't come first in our hearts. It means that these folks on this list don't wait so we must make them top priority.

Writing: (Deadlines, editing, rewrites, going back and forth with your agent, going back and forth with your publisher, going back and forth with your editor, going back and forth with your publicist if you have one)…and you see what I mean? Yep, writing is tough. Sometimes you write something over fifteen times for your agent to go, " Ah, you've done better. It's good but it's missing something. " Or either your editor says, " What are you nuts? Your last book was so good! What is this piece of crap? Go do it over and give me something that we can make a movie out of! " LOL, believe me this is the scenario in most cases these days. Thus, making it harder for many authors to focus on readers.

I didn't intend for this to be so long but I wanted to take you into the author's life and to defend authors because we're not all cold and heartless. Some people may feel that way if you don't get back to them but we're people too. We sometimes have things that happen in our lives where answering mail just isn't possible at the moment. It doesn’t mean we don't care. I think most authors appreciate their readers. Writing is the oldest and most revered form of entertainment. Believe me, I love all my readers. And I hope to give you back the special feeling you've given me.

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Ten Things about Stacy

Ten Things about Me:

Shelley Halima (AKA Shells and literary star…y'all better recognize! Has tagged me once again) LOL…this is for you guys.

1. I love being 5'11
2. I am now at a level where I fully accept my flaws and can see them as gifts.
3. I love writing almost as much as I love my family.
4. I have embarked on a new mission to be positive as much as possible in life.
5. My family comes from a richly mixed heritage (which stems my passion to do my family tree)
6. My favorite color is purple or any color that falls in that category.
7. I eat chicken and turkey on a regular basis.
8. I hate today's hip-hop with a passion.
9. I am a proud feminist (but without always being a bitch)
I'm like a cat, (sweet when petted, I can be vicious and scratch your eyes out if you invade my space).
10. Would rather have a good DVD in my bedroom than a man. (unless he's the right man)

I won't tag anyone in particular. You all may join in!

Lovers of Latino/multicultural fiction must get Shelley's Acuzar Moreno. I am reading it and loving it. It's a wonderful book. I can't wait for the sequel!

That pic is Madonna from her Erotica album.

Adios!

I'm So Unusual

Okay I guess I am in a revealing mood. It's funny that I can say things on my blog that I have trouble saying to people around me. How can you feel more comfortable talking to strangers than you do to the people you care about? Don't ask me but I just do. It's Monday morning and I'm getting ready to write on my novel again. The story is going well, beautifully actually and I'm having a ball. Of course writing is a part of me and like I said for years, the only thing that really makes me happy.

If writing were a man he would be perfect for me. Unfortunately writing is just an art and not a human but still…I can dream can't I? I am prepared to let you inside my mind for a second. People say I'm a head of my time. They say it because of the way I think and speak. See, you have to meet me personally or read my books to see this. They all say the same thing. It's the way I express myself. I was born with an overactive imagination. Most people stop living with " make believe " before their preteens. I never did. My entire existence depends on the power of my imagination and creativity. It's all I'll ever need and I like it much better than real life. With my books, I can live through my characters. They can do things I always wanted to do but was too afraid to try. They can even do things that I know are bad but that the devil inside of me is still curious about. So yes I live through my characters. You can take that as fascinating or pathetic. It's all in how you look at things.

My world revolves around my stories. There are many reasons for this. I know that I am different from other people. I think differently. This is the reason that I don't do the " normal " things others do. Because that stuff doesn't hold my interest and doesn’t fit into my world or the kind of person I am. I have always been on a higher plane. My publisher says it's a gift. My mother says its genius. Family sits in awe. They didn't understand me at all. Now they do. They say, " Stacy's just different. That's just the way she is. " There is nothing wrong with being different. I cling onto anything that makes me special. How different am I? Well let's look…
I'm solitary. That's right. I don't like a lot of people around me at all. In fact, I hardly go out. Writing excites me so and I know that nothing in the ' real ' world could make me feel as good so why worry about it? I do what I need to do but I don't communicate and I don't dabble with ' people ' on a regular basis. I have people closest to me and that's it for now. I've never been in love with anyone outside a movie screen. I'm 27 and I can say that. Yes I've NEVER been in love with a person in real life. Just another example of how ' outside the box ' I think. I always thought years a head of the people in my same age group. That's why in high school, (well I had one boyfriend back then but that wasn't much of anything) the people just didn't get me and I didn't get the people.

My intelligence and creativity impressed the teachers. My friends admired it. Other kids probably thought of me as strange. I may be strange but who said strange was a bad thing? Unlike most people my stimulation comes from my mind. I don't need drinks and drugs to show me a good time. That's just my life. And I'm comfortable with that.
I am beginning to think there is no one in this world other than my mom and my best friend (my support system) that I will ever fall in love with. Right now I am content with everything I am doing. I like my life. I bet it's more interesting than people who go out on the town every weekend. I am fortunate because I am interesting enough to invent and have my own fun without relying on unnecessary additions. Am I regretful that I've never been in love? No. Sometimes I think about what it may be like when I'm writing it in a story. I dream of a storybook romance. Maybe they come true and maybe they don't. I believe that falling in love and dating isn't in the cards for me. Mom says it is and that it will come when I least expect it. But now I'm wondering, do I want it to? Maybe I'm just still too far ahead of everything that this just doesn't interest me. He needs to be on my level mentally. He has to have that spark. He has to drive on creativity. Other than a few male authors, I've never seen that in a man.

If I never fall in love and only have my writing I would be the happiest person on earth. If I do fall in love, it needs to be with someone who knows I don't conform to normality. But I don't care about falling in love. It seems more trouble than it is worth. I'm also convinced I couldn't be happier in love than I am now. I'm in love with writing. I'm living my life. So far the things I got satisfy me. And what you've never tasted, you don't miss. If Madonna were a man I'd be head over heels in love with her or (him) rather. Other than that falling in love isn't a concern. And right now I wouldn't have it any other way. I am thankful for the support of fans and family. And that's all I need. But falling in love? Maybe I will and maybe I never will. But I tell you one thing I'm not sitting here waiting… And I am glad I am unusual because normal is something I've never wanted to be.

Have a nice Monday! Adios!

Stacy

Stacy's Cheat Tip Test:

Stacy-Deanne's Cheat Tip Test:

Ladies not sure if your man is cheating on you but you suspect? Men, not sure if your ladies aren't doing the same? Please read and evaluate my new cheat test with tips that almost always suggests your significant other is cheating on you.

(Women) Signs Your Man Maybe Cheating on You:

The two of you haven't had sex in weeks and he's okay with that.

If he starts dismissing things you do that has always irritated him. Ex: If he always hated that you left toast crumbs in the jelly yet one day he doesn't even notice…that's a sign.

If he suddenly switches from boxers to briefs. (Especially if he's over 250 lbs.)

When his goodbye to you goes from sloppy kisses to f----- up handshakes.

When his friends seem antsy around you all of a sudden. (Yeah they know something!)

When every time you call him at work lately his boss " mysteriously " needs to speak to him.

When he's suddenly getting more calls from his " mother ", especially on his cell phone!
(Guess what? It's not his mother!)

If when you want to make love HE always has the headache.

When he starts apologizing for things you didn't know he did.

If he suddenly becomes nicer or chummier with a female friend or relative of yours that you knew he couldn't stand since you been with him, and if she begins to seem nicer to him too. (Guess who he's screwing.)

If he suddenly has a female cousin calling him constantly that you never heard of before.
(Guess what…she's not a cousin!)

If his mysterious " new " cousin has an attitude with you when YOU answer the phone.
(What the f---?)

When he's suddenly being drowned in emails and he never used to get any.

When he changes his email address out of the blue and he insists on not giving you the new one.

When he pisses on himself when you ask if he's cheating. (Ha, ha, ha! Handle your business, ladies!)

Now fellows…here we go…

(Men) Signs Your Woman Maybe Cheating on You:

She changes her hairstyle when she's never been the kind to change her hairstyle.

She switches from those sagging grandma drawers to sexy thongs.

She picks a fight with you for no reason at all. (Means she's seeing someone else AND he's much better in bed!)

She suddenly goes on a " spur of the moment " diet. (Especially when she was big since you've known her and she didn't seem to worry about it before.)

Claims the guy from work who calls her at all hours is gay even though he just doesn't seem gay to you.

Starts talking to her friends about every little thing you do.

The little things she used to like about you now annoy her beyond belief.

Becomes defensive with every little thing you say to her.

Blames her change of emotions on PMS even though she had her period a week before.

Suddenly goes shopping more than usual. (Guess what…she's not shopping!)

She stops asking you how she looks when you take her out. (She now could care less about YOUR opinion because someone else's counts more than yours does.)

When you try to touch her in bed and she acts like you smell of dog doo doo.

Seems like she can't look you in the eyes anymore. (Women tend to feel extremely guilty when they cheat)

When she tells you flat out to get the hell out of her face.

When she spends the weekends at her "mother's ". (Guess what…oh you already know!)

When she tells another guy you're her brother or cousin. (Yes, women are clever in covering our tracks).

When she calls you by another name in bed. (Uh-oh! Handle your business dude! This is a big sign!)

When she starts telling you your lovin' is getting better when you know you're not all that! Ha, ha, ha! (Aw, poor baby. Need some tips on that too boo?) I'm just playing, guys!

When she used to be so prudish in bed now she's turned into a super-freak. (Bells should be going off in your head by then)

If you know the baby is yours, have no doubts but she insists you take a DNA test just to " make sure ".

And the biggest sign your lady is cheating on you…

If you FAIL the DNA test!

Okay this post is humorous but all kidding aside, cheating is not very funny when it concerns the person being cheated on. Cheating can ruin lives, relationships and entire families. My tips are from what I've learned over the years. Being around other female friends has opened my eyes. I've never been in this situation myself but I have witnessed cheating in relationships so I know what to look for. And now you do too. Again, the tips maybe funny but these are surefire ways to tell if someone maybe cheating. I am not saying they are but changing looks and behavior is a BIG sign. Just handle your business and tackle the issue the best way you can.

With love,

Bootsy!

Feel free to share these tips on your blog but please do the right thing and give me credit or at least direct them to my blog to read them since I devised them. Thanks in advance!

We All Look Like Somebody/ Who Do You Look Like?

This also ties into my latest contest.

I have been compared to a lot of people and every one of them flatters me. Below is a list of people I have been told I look like or remind some people of.

Aaliyah
Amerie
Jackee'
Jane Kennedy
Vanity
Janet Jackson (the smile)
Ashanti

YOU BE THE JUDGES

Personally I've always thought I looked a little like Chili from TLC and Tatyana Ali.
Pretty good list huh? Those are some foxy ladies aren't they? A man once told me I looked like Regina King too. Now I love Regina and she's very attractive but I don't think we look anything a like. And no one else does either. But maybe he saw something in me that reminded me of her. Who knows? If you have any other suggestions for a look a like for me, please comment!
Anyway what celebrities do you feel you look like or anyone has told you that you look like?

I tag Ladylee, Rose, Kathi, Abeni, Shelley, Cinefille and Sabledawn and of course whoever else wants to participate!

Photos above are of me, Ashanti & Aaliyah

What Kind of Blogger Bootsy Is!

Your Blogging Type is Confident and Insightful

You've got a ton of brain power, and you leverage it into brilliant blog. Both creative and logical, you come up with amazing ideas and insights. A total perfectionist, you find yourself revising and rewriting posts a lot of the time. You blog for yourself - and you don't care how popular (or unpopular) your blog is!

What's Your Blogging Personality?

And for those who haven't be sure to lend your comments for my Erections post please. Especially the men!

Erections: Can They or Can't They Be Controlled?

Put your tongue back into your mouth this is a genuine post. I really want to know. I've heard so many different opinions. Can they or can't they be controlled by men? Some men say that they can control their erections no matter what. Others say sometimes it's just natural what happens and sometimes it can be quite embarrassing. I remember in high school when all a girl had to do was walk in front of or stand next to a guy and he'd pop a boner (what us 90's teens say), just from being close to a girl. We all know that it's difficult for boys to control it at that age. Of course we all know it's because of puberty and the fact that they are just learning about their bodies. So how could they control it?

But can MEN always control them? What brought on this topic was when I watched a movie with a very intense sex scene this evening. Through the years, I'd watch sex scenes in movies and sometimes the kissing is so intense you just know the guy has to have had a…you know right? I mean haven't you seen a movie and you go, " They look like they're kissing for real! Like they're really into it! " I know you have. Mom says actors' control themselves during those times. Well mom is way more experienced than I am so I believe she's somewhat correct. But she's still not a man so it leaves a question in my mind.

When actors are doing those sex scenes, kissing and touching, are they always able to control it? I know actors go through a lot of exercises when they are getting ready for a scene so I suppose maybe they have a mental exercise actors use to contain their arousal? I'm just guessing of course. I often wondered if they wear something. When they're doing a love scene and half of their body is under the covers, are they perhaps wearing some special designed drawers that stops their little or large (if you prefer), soldiers from saluting? I don't mean to be vulgar or anything and don't take it that way but I am really curious. I want some men to share some light on the subject. CAN YOU CONTROL IT?

You know I think there is nothing more flattering than when a guy would get a boner when I sat next to him at school. The other girls would go, " Ewe! " and run off. But hey that's a compliment I believe! If you make a man excited just by sitting beside him then you got it going on. I know some men only have to hear a woman's voice (my voice is very tiny and men seem to find it cute by the way) and they spring up. Others just see a good looking woman or either a woman wearing something that triggers his senses and he goes, " Boing! ". Well that's life isn't it?

And what causes a lot of men to get erections in public? You know you've seen men somewhere and you do a double take and you swear you see a…in his pants. Then you look again only to confirm it. Most women laugh. Others just turn their heads, embarrassed. But do you ever wonder what made it get there? I do. What's the guy thinking about when he's in public and he's aroused? Does it just happen? Can he or can he not control it? Some guys say men can. Others say sometimes…no way. I just want to know. When it came to movies, it was the first question that popped in my mind. Okay, no pun intended. But can it be controlled?

Comments? And please keep them respectable. We're not on the street here. Say your peace with some manners and refrain from using vulgar language. I'm a lady. And also, respect my blog visitors. Some people allow all kinds of things on their blog. I don't. So " Respect my house! ", as Martin would say.

Bye

Music Makes My World Go 'Round & High School Reminiscing

MESSAGE: Well, Blogger worked fine for one day and now I can't get my photo button or font buttons again. I guess I am one of the lucky ones. They are having such bad database problems that some people can't find their blogs! I realize they are having problems but it's been like this for nearly two weeks except for when I did the Janet post. I had some pictures to post for this next topic but I couldn't do it as you all know. Now I see why people complain about Blogger. If they don't get themselves together than I'll have to find my blog a new home.

OKAY NOW FOR THE TOPIC. I hope you will still enjoy it...

" Music makes the people come together…
Music makes the bourgeoisie and the rebel…come together…
Music makes the people come together…"

--- Madonna's " Music "

Know that song?

" Music " is a song that sticks in your head all day. You know those songs that you only have to hear the chorus and for the entire day you're singing it? Music is my entire world. I love music. It became my best friend when I was old enough to understand lyrics and sounds. I can sing. I love to sing, jump around and dance to my favorite kinds of music. It doesn't matter what you put on. You can put on old school R&B and I'm happily grinding to the soothing sounds. Put on the (Rolling) Stones or Dire Straits and I'm banging my imaginary electric guitar. Put on Michael Jackson and I'm skipping all around the room or either I'll opt to take a mental slow dance to " Liberian Girl " in my mind. Put on Prince and I'm wailing to the top of my lungs to " When Doves Cry ". God, that's a beautiful song. Put on Madonna and well…Bootsy gets a little crazy. But I beg you, just put on the best and I'm rocking and rolling to just about anything as long as it's REAL music.

Anyway, I was listening to Guy's " I Like " from ' 88. I love that song! I tell you that year was great for music. I was in elementary school then. Bobby released his debut. Al B. released his debut. Damn, Keith Sweat released his debut! Talk about a jamming good time. So as I was listening to Guy I thought of some old school days. I've been thinking a lot about high school and the incidents that happened then. That is what music does to me, makes me think and brings back memories I wouldn't have been able to conjure up otherwise.

I have also been thinking about school because in 06' it will have been ten years since graduation! Now that is really weird for me to realize because it only seems like yesterday since I was sitting with my friends. I mean, it's been an entire decade? I just can't believe that. It shows how fast the years go. That's why we have to make the most of them. I do, by celebrating music. High school was a strange time. You see in elementary school and middle school I was kind of awkward about being tall and overweight, etc. In high school I became pretty popular. I had a load of friends and people looked up to me. I truly began to find myself. My confidence level still wasn't as high then as it is now but I was learning to accept myself.

Ah high school. It seems like only yesterday when the guys were pushing us against the walls trying to molest us. Remember when a boy would just grab you in the hallway and try to kiss you? You'd screech, smack him and call it a day. Then that same boy would write you a lover letter and the grammar would be so bad you had to ask one of the slower kids to explain it to you? Yep those were the days. I remember the stupidest things horny teen boys used to say, " Stacy you got some nice big balloons can I touch them, huh, huh can I? " I have to laugh thinking of that. But hey high school boys wouldn't know tact from gas. And how come the finest boys were always in the slower classes? I never understood that. The finest boy in school would always be that dude who was 21 and still in the ninth grade with you remember? My friends would be like, " Ooh Stacy he's so fine! Girl he got his own car, he works at Mickey-D's! " I would be like, " Yeah but the MF is still sitting in the ninth grade! I mean if you are old enough to go vote in the presidential election after you leave school in the evening something's wrong with the picture! " LOL, but he'd be fine. I mean the finest boys were always the dumbest ones and they were always the first ones trying mack! The smart girls were always cute but the smart boys were always Urkel look-a-likes weren't they? And what was so pitiful was that they actually thought Urkel was cool!

Ah and the jocks. Who could forget those no-playing, arrogant, muscle bound apes who really thought they were going to play pro ball yet couldn't even spell pro. Those were the days. And what about those damn honor students that got on everyone's nerves? The ones that spent the school year trying to get you to sign up for after school activities. The ones you ran away from when you saw them coming? And they were always so cheerful weren't they? On Monday mornings you'd be dragging in and they'd be smiling, " Good morning! " Like you actually wanted to be in school. I chuckle about it now but I almost punched a couple of those flighty chicks back then.

I have no beef with the teachers because I barely remember them.

It's just fun to stroll down memory lane isn't it? I don't know if my school is having a high school reunion or not. I don't know if I would go if they did. I didn't want to see those people then why would I want to now? Oh yeah, to gloat maybe. Hee, hee, hee! Guess who became the best selling author? I wonder about my friends and if their dreams come true. I hope they did. If not, I hope they still do. I also hope that many lives weren't lost since high school. I am sure some people I knew then have died, it is so sad to realize that might be true. Anyway, I'm still living towards my dreams. Writing is just one of them. I have an entire bag full of more under my chair. And I plan to make them come true or at least work hard trying to.

Strolling down memory lane is lovely for me most times. And it all begins with the sound of music.

Bye, Bootsy

Janet's Secret or Not-Secret Child?

It's back! It's back! Now I can post images and change fonts again! Yippee! Bow down! Bow down! Okay now for the topic…

" Miss Janet Finds Herself in the News yet Again. "

I just wanted to comment about Janet Jackson and the secret child thing that's been going on. As we all know, Young Debarge claims that Janet has an eighteen-year-old daughter Renee. Janet has since come out to the media claiming she has no secret child. What do you believe? This is what I believe along with my point…

First off, I am a Janet Jackson fan. But I still have a difference of opinion about Janet's secret child issue. I believe Janet has a secret child. I believe that Janet has kept the child hidden to keep her persona and to appear as a younger image. We all know that Janet appeals to the youngsters and they hold the icon in great respect. She has constantly reinvented herself throughout the years to keep a hold on teen and young adult audiences whom would probably look at her differently if they realized she was old enough to have a grown daughter. Even though Janet's forty, having a child would have brought more attention to her age, risking her appeal to her primary audience. She may have had other reasons for hiding the child. Maybe she's smart and doesn't want her daughter hounded by the media every second. Maybe she wants her child to have a real life. Maybe she's not really connected to the girl, who knows? I mean it's not so hard to imagine is it? Do you think that Janet would be the only person in the world who has hidden a child? Well, I don't. Here is my point…

Now I have no reason to believe Janet has a child. I just do. It's just a feeling inside of me. But my point is that it is no one's business if she does or doesn't. She does not have to disclose every ounce of her private life to the media. If Janet has a secret child, what difference would it make? No one has the right to disclose something personal about anyone. I think that Young Debarge is not only doing this out of some sort of spite but to pump up sales for his new album. A lot of people think this too.

I think Janet is a kind and generous person. Over the last two years the media has hounded her more than most. Well I take that back. The media hasn't hounded anyone as much as they have Michael Jackson. Back to Janet, we all know this is the price of fame. But no matter who someone is, it doesn’t give anyone else the right to share a secret about that person. Janet has the right to keep some things personal despite being a celebrity just like everyone else has that right. I believe that the public will shun Young Debarge whether they believe Janet has a child or not. The fact is it's no one's business. People have the right to make their own choices because they will have to answer for it in the end. Will the media ever be able to mind their business? Nope! LOL!

Let people live their lives and you rise above selfishness and pettiness to live yours.
I've had the Janet thing on my mind a lot lately and just wanted to share my opinion publicly. Now back to our regularly scheduled programming already in progress…
Janet looks good for forty doesn't she? She's a truly beautiful person inside and out. That's why I am forever a Janet Jackson fan. People say she's washed up but look at how far she's gotten. She's gotten farther than some people ever wish they could in show business.

Janet will rise again.

Men Please Get A Manual & Ditch Those Tired Pick-Up Lines!

Okay, I just have to bring up a topic about men and how they try, notice I said ' try ' to pick up women. What sparked this topic in my head was because I was watching a movie tonight where this man tried to pick up this woman in the store. I got to thinking about all the times when men flirted and tried to pick me up and I had to address my thoughts on the matter.

First of all I don't like pick-up lines because I can see through them a mile away and most women can. Some women dig them. They find it funny when a man struggles over some tacky line. Well that's some women, that is not me. I prefer a man to be honest but of course that never happens right off. Also, I don't like to be picked up period. I won't give anyone my phone number that I just met so they don't need to bother asking anyway. I have to get to know a man first, which means being around him before I even think of sharing my personal business. Walking up to me while I'm shopping or doing anything else won't get you any place with me. Okay back to the issue…

If I had a nickel for every tired, pathetic line I've heard I would be richer than Queen Elizabeth would! It's so sickening to be subjected to some fool who is too stupid to realize he's using some generic line that women have heard since the beginning of time. I remember when I was shopping with my mom about a week after it became the year 2000. This guy walked up to me (first of all he was too damn old), anyway, he kept walking where I was. You know how they do, they walk around you for a while then pretend to leave then when you think it's safe, they bring their rank behinds back over there. So I knew already he was going to make his move. Ha!

He stood behind me going, " Girl you must be tired. " I said, " Excuse me? Are you speaking to me? " He said, " Yeah. You must be tired because you been running through my mind all day. " First I busted out laughing. Secondly I said, " You have to be kidding me. You mean in the year 2000 you are still using that tired line? I don't mean to be rude but that line is so old Joseph used it on Mary! " He looked like the blood ran straight from his veins. I didn't mean to embarrass the dude but if you're going to come up to me you better have some style. I'm like Aaliyah all right, you come up to me extra smooth or either you better take your behind back from where you came from, dust yourself off and try again! I am not easy to get. Do I look easy, please!

I have yet to hear a smooth line that wasn't said by a man on television. That is why I admire the men from the 70's and 80's. They had style. They knew how to pick up women but they were so damn smooth it didn't even seem like they were picking you up, right women? They dressed neat. They were clean. They had jobs, cars and homes. Now any old fool will try to come up to you. Panhandlers have hit me on! Now you homeless, sitting on the street with a can but you need a woman? Something is wrong with your priorities, man.

My point is that I believe out of 100 men there are probably only 45% (and that's stretching it), that knows what smooth is. I mean if you're looking for some easy booty at least dress it up with some smoothness. Don't come up like, " Baby can I have them digits? " And then wonder why I run away from you faster than money ran from MC Hammer. Guys it's the new millennium! Women aren't going for that tired crap anymore, at least respectable women. I'm not talking about those trashy women that will go off with any guy as long as he buys her a burger. I am talking about respectable women, get it? Like I said, I don't like pick-up lines unless it's so good it knocks me off my feet. It has to be one I've never heard before.

Ah, I remember a smooth line a guy gave me back in high school. He was a transfer student who came from Georgia. He was tall, light skinned and his smile lit up the air. He was soooo cute! I forgot his name though. I heard around campus he wanted me to be his girlfriend but I was too shy to be his girlfriend. Anyway, he said one day in the hall,
" Stacy you know why you make me miss Georgia so much? " I said, " No why? " " Well you remind me so much of a Georgia peach, plump and sweet. " I almost fainted. That was cute and it gave me chills. Now we were only 16 at the time. Now that's a shame that he could come up with something that original at his age but you got 30 year old men today still working with that " running through my mind line ". Ha, ha, ha! I have to laugh. Mom told me about all the times that they used it on her in the 60's! Yet, men are still using it today. And men wonder why women shoot them down. Now they know.

Women, we need to make a manual and include all the pick-up lines men should NEVER use again for as long as they live! LOL!

Toodles!

New Blog Design!

Hi All,

Well, as you can see I switched my blog design! Yep I got tired of that blue. It was pretty and alluring but you get sick of something you've had for months. Plus you should change your blogs every now and then because it keeps things interesting. If you keep the same old blog design for months then visitors start to get a little bored. It's the same with websites, got to keep them interesting right? I've seen a few people with this design and I absolutely loved the pink, it's so beautiful!

I also changed because I wanted something more uplifting. Not only is the pink pretty but it suggests a more positive outlook I think. I am taking on a more positive stance in life and so I wanted to reflect that through everything that's connected to me. The pink symbolizes harmony plus it's soft and lady-like just like me. Don't worry, just because the blog is different doesn't mean I won't be the same ol' loveable Bootsy. I truly hope you guys like it and join me on my new journey of self-acceptance.

As you all know, Blogger has been having problems and I still can't post pictures or change fonts, etc right now. I have contacted them and am waiting to hear back. I hear others are having problems as well. I hope that you all can deal with this and still enjoy my blog even if I don't have these extra additions right now. I hope you still find it interesting and enjoy your stay!

I have put in all my links. Now if the Blog Roll thing isn't working then it means I pasted it in wrong. Just give me some days to fix everything up. I also have to go back and change some of my posts' colors, if I can since blogger is having problems. Just bear with me you guys.

With love,
Stacy

PLEASE COMMMENT ON MY NEW BLOG DESIGN!