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Wednesday, August 31, 2005

What Women Really Want



Right here and now I'm going to tell you men what women really want. I'm going to lay it on the line so that there are no more mistakes. Men complain that they need to know what we want, well I'll tell you. First off I must say that every time I go into a bookstore there is a book claiming to tell men the secrets of what women want.

What bothers me about these books is that men write most of them. I also know that most men who think they know a lot about women gather information from their friends who claim to be experts just because they've been in a lot of relationships. Uh, this should be a clue that they don't know anything about women. Because if they did, they'd still be with the first one they hooked up with and not have a list of seven failed relationships right? Right.

Men can't tell men what women want just like women can't tell women what men want. You have to be the gender to know what the person expects in terms of a significant other, love and life, etc.

Men you want to know the secret? Want to know what women really want? Well here it is…we want you to be real. Doesn't seem like a big whopper does it? No and you don't have to waste your time buying those thick books by nerdy P.H. D's. I cannot believe that for centuries men have yet to figure it out that women want honesty above anything else. I cannot tell you how many times a man has tried to pick me up with some low-life line or a straight out lie. Granted, there are superficial women who are just out for a man with a certain type of car, bank account and status. But most women who are looking for a guy for the long haul just want you to come to them correctly.

Now hey, it's not to say that you shouldn't have a car, good education or a job. Let's keep that straight. If a woman can work the man can too right? If she's making a salary, she should expect to be with a man who's making one too. And also, we like men to realize that we're not out to compete with them despite being independent. We just want our piece of the cake too. Now back to the issue…

Women aren't easily impressed so don't bother trying. I know for a fact a man shouldn't try to impress me because there is only one man in the world who has ever impressed me and that's Michael Jackson. No one else has ever knocked me off my feet the way he has. So you can forget trying to impress unless you can do the Moonwalk, sell billions of albums worldwide, dance without breaking a sweat and become incredibly famous. In other words forget it. And I don't like someone who tries to " impress " anyway. Most women aren't going to be easily impressed by a man no matter what you have. That's just how women are. So men ditch trying to impress us and just be who you are. If you drive a beat-up Pinto, don't say you drive a 2005 Navigator. If you live with your mother, don't pretend she's your landlady. If you live in a one-room apartment, don't say you live in a mansion in the richest part of town.

Let me back it up, there is something that impresses me. A man that is honest, respectful and can come to me with confidence is very impressive. So yes, that's impressive to me. And I try to bring the same to anyone I meet. Women want men who are real. Ditch the lines. Ditch the personas. Ditch the act. And believe me you won't ever have to wonder what women want ever again. Because if you follow this simple rule men, you'll be with the woman you want for life.

Ciao!

2 Comments:

At 11:18 PM, Blogger livewell said...

Respect...
I really appreciate you for writing this. You won't find many men who will agree, but therein lies the problem.

 
At 5:26 PM, Blogger CydneyR said...

I loved your post. Love discussions about men and women. I cracked up at your line that the only man that has impressed you is Michael Jackson. Too funny. And let me add something to your comments about what women really want - I agree it would be nice to have honesty - as long as the woman can handle a man's honesty.

And if you piss a woman off by doing something that hurts her, don't get offended if she lashes out at you. She's wounded. She's going to exhibit her pain. She is emotional. So don't think she's psycho because she is reacting to something you've clearly done that isn't cool. Let her work through her emotions for a minute. (Thanks Stacy, had to get that off my chest). LOL.

 

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